Local or Non Local?!
A week ago, when I was at the hospital, something caught my attention..
I was somehow bothered yet happy..
While I was waiting for my turn, a women that was either Russian, German or Swedish, was sitting beside me wearing sheilah and aba. Her hair was yellowish, she had make up on and she wore a RAINBOW aba.. Moments later a local man comes to her and keeps talking to her and says to the little young girl beside her “yalla baba banseer”
I was stunned.. A local man married to a Non local woman??!!
hmMmm.. Well it is good that the man got married and chose to settle in his life rather than play around and make sins.. But still.. Why not marry an Arab Muslim girl?
I couldn’t stop thinking about it..
I’m neither against it nor with it, but we have alot of single women that have exceeded the age of marriage.. Why doesn’t a man marry a girl from his country.. Why should he marry a foreign woman..
I mean I seriously need a good EXPLANATION!
If Arab men keep on marrying non-Arabs.. Then what about the Arabian women..
Arabian women aren’t allowed to marry foreign men.. So what then?
They should all be single!?
That’s why I somehow got bothered.. Because women here aren’t allowed to marry foreign people.. And men marry foreign women.. What will happen to the single women in UAE?
Unfortunately, the Muslim societies are now like the European society..
Have a boyfriend or a girlfriend and you guarantee your future!
Why allow this concept when we can stop it?!
Hey …
Nice blog sis … never been to such calming blog maybe the colors i dont know … About your bothering its just like when an employer receives 2 CV one for and expat and another for a local … for the expat he will hire her with his eye closed just because shes an expat but when it comes to hiring a local the employer will carefully look closely at the CV and check the experiences, skills and certificates …
Get my point
I dont know but everything seems easy for them here:)
Mitsuki ===> yup.. so so so true..
it’s so weird..
is it because they think that people with blue eyes and blond hair are better?
Howdy “)
I believe that local men tend to marry non-locals because they come in a less costy package if you know what i mean.
Think of the stereotype of local women, each and every one demands more than she requires for survival: a luscious cat, villa and the latest updates on luxury and fashion…. it maybe nonsense to you but im sure that is the common image of arab women, and as much as it hurt me i had to say it and will say it till we reach a limit of total desperation for a husband!
Amazing blog sis!
Adios!
Yes I wonder why … I lived in the UK for 9 yrs and I wasn’t treated specially I was normal like anyone else so why here make big deals of people …
Princess Charming Ok but will this “less costy package” give them the arabic/islamic home environment, would they trust there children with her, wouldnt he be living differently and beleive me this “differently” is not a good thing!
Well I can give u the good explanation
Either the families of the local girls themselves or BOTH ask for very HIGH dowry, lavish wedding parties, gold, gifts for the mother of the girl, her sisters…blab blah
Second, local men are getting bored with the black hair and the dark Skin,,,that’s why they are looking 4 slim bodies, YELLOWISH hair, blue eyes blab blah
To hell with them, but as u pointed out the big problem is with our sick culture that prohibit Arab girls from getting married to men from other nationalities….
And in Islam, as u know, women need the PERMISSION of her “Wali” or father or wut ever to get married………ya3ni after all we r the victims…..as u said arab guys can play have fun as much as they want with girl friends without any obligations,,,after they pass their thirties they decide to marry Arab wmen ,,,guess wut …they get married to YOUNG ladies leaving those who have been waiting 4 them……ahhhhhh
assallamu allaikum.
i dont understand the law of UAE. the i am refering to a hadis of our beloved prophet (peace be on him) “During the Farewell Pilgrimage, while thousands of Muslims gathered in the sacred place, during the sacred month, the Prophet (peace be on him) delivered his last public address, emphasizing the basic principles: O people, your Lord is One. Know that there is no superiority of an Arab over a non-Arab or of non-Arab over an Arab, nor of a white over a black or of a black over a white, except through consciousness of Allah (taqwa). Verily, the most honourable among you in the sight of Allah is the one who has most taqwa. (Reported by Ahmad.)”
may Allah always guide us…
Princess Charming –> unfortunately,,
men have been generalizing this thing.. and it’s not true..
not all arabs ask for such things..
but men already have this impression that all women are the same..
but i should tell them..
‘are your fingers all the same?”
I rest me CASE!
lool
thanks for passing sis
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Arablady —>
well Allah yihdee il jamee3..
i just hope that all the non married women get married
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Mudassar –> yeah.. there is no difference between people..
we are all Adam’s children.. and Adam is from Sand..
but unfortunately.. we should abide with these rules in our country
i agree with all of the above^
as long as she s muslim then it should be okkay,,,, there is a lot of 3noosa,,,and a lot of scarce good deeni husbands,,, multiple marrige should not be a shame for those who can handle it
but if he was willing to marry a non muslima perhaps its good that he didnt marry a muslim woman,,
assallamu allaikum. saba-al-khair. i am learning arabic
okay the point wat we were discussing is about the rule. Allah made this earth but we humans created boundries and made different countries… no matter wat happens we have to be good so that we will be happy when Allah will put us in heaven inshallah. there i guess everyone will be treated equally. there u can marry the person whom u like 
(inshallah)
Q8ibloger –> i know..
alot of women have exceeded the marriage age and are not yet married because of non sense rules..
but ALlah kareem..
Mudassar — > yes inshaAllah in heaven we will all be treated equally inshaALlah..
assallamu allaikum. wells its thursday so will be leaving soon from office.. have a nice weekend everyone..
Hey again
Nice discussion we have here
Well are all locals with black hair and dark skin, I dont think so
are they all fat,chubby and globy No too !!!!
Its all with the trends, and fashion lol
Maybe they feel that it is cheaper and fashionable to get married to an expat but beleive me all the cheap and outside ego will fade away because you can never found a better mother and wife other than a true muslim and arab … its just not right
What is the marriage age limit?
And why can’t an Arab woman marry a non-Arab Muslim? They should be allowed to, there is no reason why they should be stopped.
Mitsuki —> yeah.. there’s no better mom than an arab muslim mom..
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Arshad — > well there’s no age limit.. unfortunately.. women reached the age 27 and above and are still single..
usually in the old times.. girls used to get married in the age of 18-22..
and the answer to your second question.. in Islam, women shall only marry a muslim man..
about the Arab and non arab part.. well if a women from UAE marries a man from another country.. they will take away her UAE passport..
I dont see why cant an Arab Muslim not marry a non-Arab Muslim
We are all counted as Muslims whether arabs or non !!!
but the non-Arab should be a Muslim a true one .. not any person who would convert for the marriage only and careless about Islam!
Mitsuki —> so true..
but unfortunately we cant change the policy ..
ok, my opinion on this matter!!
I don’t necessarily disagree with local men marrying non-local women (regardless of the fact they were Arabs or Muslims, non-Muslims or foreigners)!!
I know of married couples, who are married to foreigners.. and I know local married couples.. and they all say that they were in love.. So, it doesn’t matter who you marry as long as you are happy..
About the local girls, well, they will find a guy, or the guy will find them..
they don’t really have to be local..!!
There are plenty of Muslim guys out there
What i know, is that its all a matter of what’s wriiten.. our culture pays alot of attention on the thoguht that women shall get married b4 a certain age..
Women, or lets say mostly teenage girlz, act in a way that can be described as “rash, unawared, and misleaded” , you can find them lessening their precious value to men though whats seen of actions that says “look at me” in malls, cars, and other places…
as for i , i believe if religion occupied one’s heart, he/she would have more forecasted logical thoughts..
As for the men marrying women from other cultures… most probably, he doesnt know of the existance of many innerly and outerly beautiful woman in our country.. ive seen alot… religious and pretty… and when i read this subject in this blog, i wondered… and knew.. that usually the m2adddabat or the well-mannered educated ones spend their precious hours at home, preferring strengthening family joints,reading, and many other beneficial options they offer themselves.. they usually dont have the adequate time for showing-off malls, and flirting meeting places…
Those women, most havent met, and for the truth , theyre young and pretty… and believe me , i vote for them akthar 3an any other girl, no matter how uneducated and mannered or educated and unmannered, or nonreligious and beautiful is she…
and oh yah btw, there r alot of women, who are also foreigners, but adapted this culture where abaya and sheila had became an essential part of their cloth, i mean those foreigners who dont wear it for flirting purposes..
There are alot of complexity in this country..
I think one of the reasons why locals marry foreigners is due to their stubborn thoughts that local women are very demanding… excuse me but , this thought is very bidaaa2i
Salam,
Raising this issue is really great. I am against the Arab’s marriage of a non-Arab (even if both are Muslims), & vice versa. There are social differences that can not be ignored. Let alone the language. Even between Arabs. for example: I don’t think the marriage of a Syrian man to a Saudi woman would succeed. even if their economical standards are the same..
In Saudi, tribes do not accept such marriages, & also the law prevents it unless there are strong reasons that justify it..
I think the same social rejection for these marriages is in UAE. But the government won’t prevent it since it treat foreigners as locals (& I admire that by the way).