Marriage!
Surrounded by everything that Allah has forbidden, we find ourselves lost, lost like a little child in a huge play ground. We find ourselves surrounded by strangers that only stare, yet they do not offer to help us find our parents.
We Muslim girls are considered like children found lost in a playground and when we turn around looking for a husband all what we see are men that look at us in a way saying that they would drown us with love but in a way that Allah has forbidden.
What upsets me the most is that men instead of taking things in the right path, they tend to follow the wrong path intentionally. When they do that we, the “Muslim” girls, are left lost; Lost in a world that is surrounded by wolves that would like to eat us alive.
I sometimes ask myself from all what I see; will my friends and I ever find a “True Muslim husband”? Or shall we simply raise the white flag and give up?
Some of those I know, have already given up, yet I insist that somewhere out there are good men that are willing to get married but can’t find the right girl.
I am not saying that we are good and others are bad, no, but what I am saying is that men should try to take things in the way that Allah has allowed. Why not get married when you can? Why spend time with girls that would not do you good in the after life?
I even ask myself at times, will it be easy to find “a man that prays the five prayers in the Masjid”? Will it be easy to find “a man that would teach me the right way to read the Quran”? Will it be easy to find “a man that fears Allah and wouldn’t betray his wife”?
Will it be easy to find “a man that gives his life, heart and time to his wife”? Will it be easy to find “a man that would tolerate his wife like the Prophet – Peace Be Upon him – and his companions”? Will it be easy to find a “TRUE MUSLIM HUSBAND”?
When it comes to marriage the first thing I ask myself is, would my husband be loyal? From what I see nowadays I doubt that.
I know that Allah has planned everything, all thanks to Allah. Yet it doesn’t mean that I should sit quietly and allow myself to see men play around while girls start an “anti-marriage campaign” between themselves.
A little message I have for all the men out there, what goes around comes around.
Don’t waste your time playing, sinning and doing what angers Allah, for a day will come when you will regret that.
Remember there are girls out there that would like to build a family, become a mom and a loyal wife. Don’t be the reason for a girl to give up her dreams.
Note: marriage is an important issue because it would be a barrier between us (both males and females) and the things that may anger Allah.
as2al Allah lakee eltawfeeq e5ty fellah..
Allahuma estr 3alla a5awatnaa o a79n shababna..
sis would u be so kind as to post this same entry in Talkish.com plz?
you can also link to your website so that they can see your other entries if u’d like..
Thank You…
Never give up…nor give in. There is a really big and simple secret to finding your soulmate. To find the other half of your medallion,(so to speak), you must truly know what YOUR half looks like FIRST…on this journey your paths WILL cross.
Too often people do not understand the teachings concerning marriage because they do not understand GOD.(not meant personally)
It is a union of two into one. A joining like no other…there is no seperating, nor divorcing THIS type of union. It is eternal. A new ‘being’ has been created by this type of union forever more.
Would you spend 5, 7 or even 10 years alone…searching, to have an eternity together? Aren’t you worth it? Most people say ‘NO’ and so ‘give in’ and SETTLE for what they have found so far. But, as I like to say; “I don’t think I know…I just know I’m thinking.”
HOLD OUT and ONTO your ‘TRUE LOVE’.
It’s ALL in HOW we search.
your humble servant,
Ancient Clown
asalamu aleykum
mashaAllah got a nice template,, the website looks much better
as for marraige,,
then yeah a big must for any deeni
yet how do you complain about men watching,,when you can wear niqab,,, or serious burka style,,,men will never look,, or they got a be real sick to do that,,
there are plenty fo good shabaab out there,, but parrents make things hard!,,
how do you expect a guy who just graduate or not even graduated to go to a dad and ask for his daughter,,, when so and so is needed
besides you wont find these shabaab who pray 5 times a day in malls or on the streets,,, they dont hang out in these places,,
just be patient and pray,, the man with 2 fist length beard with the white turban on the black horse will come
alhamdullelah still plenty of time!
Ancient Clown –> thanks brother for all what you have mentioned.. ALlah thanks to Allah I have studied my other half and know what I need when it comes to a husband.. and I believe that Allah knows whats best for me..
I just don’t want to make mistakes, because I believe true love comes after marriage..
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Q8ibloger –> Alhamdulillah i don’t have problems with guys flirting or starting at me.. Alhamdulillah.. guys DO respect girls w/ good Hijab.. Alhamdulillah..
inshaAllah if it is meant for me to get married then I will.. although i believe that giving brith to a child after marriage is a great gift..
about the theme.. i’m glad you liked it..
lovely what you have written, yzach allah khaer.
Nice layout.
Firstly ,,,,,, Woow Coool new style ..
Then ,, sister the key that everyone is holding
Duaa ,, May Allah shows those lost people the right path ,,
Allah Yhdeehum
w yktablich el5air Insha Allah
I think your concerns are what many women worry about. It is true there are a lot of men that just play around and I have known men who play around even when they are married with a new baby. It really upsets me. However, not all men are this way and life and God do work with us. Hope does exist and there are good men who make great husbands and who desire a good wife.
al Salam 3alaikom ..
Marriage is ne3meh from Allah sub7anah wa ta3ala .. it’s ta79een for el nafs ..
Intending to get married is a great thing .. but we dont’ forget that before we do everything we should pray 9alat el este5aarah .. even more than once and inshallah elly feeh el 5air Allah bayjadmeh .. aham shay el e5laa9 lellaah Sub7anah wa ta3ala o este5aartah .. o el tawakol 3alaih Sub7anah wa ta3ala .. and put in mind that who wants to get married is really intending to create family and be away from mu7aramat ..
el salam 3alaikom !
WOW
I found a nice blog to read from time to time
I want to confess
Umm…. I am one of those “anti-marriage campaign” people
With each day that pass i get more and more convinced that there are no MEN in our days
I find it very hard to believe people who always tend to convince me of the opposite but cant
anyway i really enjoyed reading your post
Numb –> thats the main reason i wanna get married.. il dinya is surrounded by ashya 7aram.. and I dont wanna be a victim of Satan..
Allah kareem..
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H87T19A –> il7imdlillah for liking my blog..
i used to be like you.. know wat you’re going through.. lakin believe me.. you wont lose anything if you pray ALlah to bless you with a true muslim husband.. kilshay beed Allah..
don’t give up.. ildinya feeha 5air.. it’s just that those ppl are hard to reach
Well, I agree with you ofcourse. But no, we should’nt give up. There are men out there, who are good Muslims, bas, whenever Allah Wills we’ll get married to the right one. Just, when it’s good for you, it’ll happen…I hope that’s soon for all of us!
Finding a husband who follows the Sunnah and the Sahaba would be great…but I think it’s a bit unfair to blame it too much on the guys. We women are’nt really trying to be like the Sahabiyat. May Allah be pleased with all the companions.
I’m not generalizing. But it’s true.
I see women all around me asking for sky high Mahr. Ok, there are only fewwww men who can afford to pay that much mahr at such a young age, but the majority can’t. SubhaanAllah, there were women those times, who accepted the learning of the Qu’ran as mahr…will anyone [me included] accept that as mahr nowadays???
Also, alot of women dislike being the 2nd, 3rd or the 4th wives nowaays….
Well, we’ve just got to be realistic, and think: it’s not possible for each and evey girl to be married and be the first wife at the same time….why? Scarcity of the men!!!
So, the only criteria for both men and women should be DEEN…it doesn’t matter it he can afford a 2nd car, or not…nor does it matter if he’s asking you to become his 2nd wife…nor does it matter if he’s a decade older than you…
if it’s allowed in islam…then that’s it!
So yeah..everyone should follow deen properly and not let their personal whims and fancies get in the way. I mean, it’ll be great to marry a religious dashing 20 something, who’s verrryyy rich, and remain his only wife…but we’ve just got to be realistic…
take care sis…
This is well written piece. As for marrieage I agree with all,but for u to find the right person how is this possible? Certainly, by making supplication 2 Allaah Almighty He will InsahAllaah grant you your wish. However living in the gulf society u have the problem of arrange marrige as far as I remmber living in the UAE that is the way. Unless it has changed. In the other Arab society usually arrange marriage is not the norm so girls can find or may have more chancess to find the right man. That does not mean it is easy and men in these societies are better than the Gulf one, no. We must not forget there are huge problems faced by female mainley in the Arab society by men. Add to that the pressure on the women to dream about finding the right man is a big problem and the Media is part of this as it shows all this good looking men who girls feel it is there dream man. On the other side all this beautiful perfect sized women which are the dream of the BOYS who in there search will comapre every girl too.
In my openion it is a difficult equation will only by solved by practising our diin as good as we can and have the right network and last but most important supplication to Allaah for the right wife/husband. GOOD lcuk for every one in your search.
Mohamed –> Thanks brother for your true words..
In UAE, as we know arranged marriage was part of the culture, but not anymore..
we barely find arranged marriages nowadays..
and yes.. cos of the media..
girls and guys want the PERFECT spouse, even though we know no one’s perfect..
jazak ALlah khair brother..