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Most of the articles I read about marriage focus on how women should be faithful, loyal, kind, loving (and so on) to her husband. The articles I read are very beneficial yet I ask myself.. How come we barely find articles that tell the MEN their duty towards their wives?  Unfortunately a lot of men believe that they don’t have much duty towards their wives except that they should provide them with shelter, food and clothes.. 

But what about her emotions, her thoughts, her point of view?
I don’t know why some men don’t take their wives thoughts or suggestions in consideration, or why they don’t like it when their wives ask them –politely- to do something? I’m not pointing out fingers nor am I generalizing.. But I’m just pointing this out so that all men would realize that it’s time that they fulfill their wives –tolerable- needs and wants.. 1) A man should be respectful to his wife and should always remember that he should treat her the way he would like to be treated by her… 

2) A man should give his wife the chance to express her feelings, to talk about what’s upsetting her specially that females are very sensitive and emotional.. 3) A man should tolerate his wife when she gets mood swings or when she gets upset because in the end she’s a human with feelings and emotions (I’m not saying he should always tolerate her mood swings but sometimes it happens due to her hormonal changes) 

4) A man should accept his wife the way she is, there are some things in a woman that she can’t change about herself so he should accept it because that is how Allah has created her.  I remember a story I heard about Omar ibn al khattab, when a man went to complain to him about how his wife speaks out loudly to him, before knocking the door of omar ibn il khattab’s house, he heard the wife of Omar yell at him..
so when Omar saw the man he told him “I came to complain to you about my wife and I find that you are going through the same thing” so Omar ibn il khattab said “how can I not tolerate her when she has raised my kids, washed my clothes…so on.” [I don’t recall the exact words of the story] 

subhanAllah, so true.. If your wife has done almost everything for you.. Then you should be thankful for not all women are as good as yours.. Give your wife the chance to be who she is when she’s around you.. Treat your wife the way you want to be treated by her..

See how our beloved Prophet peace be upon him was with his family and what our beloved mentioned about treating your family, we should follow the sunnah: Volume 7, Book 64, Number 276
Narrated Al-Aswad bin Yazid:
I asked ‘Aisha “What did the Prophet use to do at home?” She said, “He used to work for his family, and when he heard the Adhan (call for the prayer), he would go out.” 

Please watch this video: 60 ways to keep the love of your wife

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She looked out the window and kept quiet, she remained that way for a whole minute, the quietness in her made me wonder, to what extent was she hurt.. She tried to be strong and show me that she was accepting things the way they were.. but deep down in her, I knew she was struggling to stand still, to stand on her feet and to show her family that she was able to support them… She raised her eyes gazing at the moon and kept whispering, I could barely hear what she was saying but I knew that it was something that she didn’t want me to hear.. I tried to focus on something else but the calmness in her worried me a lot.. I walked towards her and gave her a slight pat on her shoulders to let her know that I was there for her.. she glanced at me and as she did I could see the pain in her eyes, the tears that she was holding back and the stress that was affecting her psychologically.. It was too late for her to do anything about it and that was the thing that hurt her the most, she knew that she could no longer correct her mistakes.. because her mistakes can’t be erased nor can it be wiped out.. She looked at me and said “if only I told her how much I loved her, if only I treated them nicely”. I didn’t know what to say because I knew that it was so hard to lose someone you love, someone you care about the most, someone who looked after you ever since you were born..
Sometimes you wonder what stops you from telling your mother and father how much you love them, but when they pass away you feel the urge to let them know that you cared about them a lot and that you loved them more than anything.. Seeing your mom lying in front of you, body with no soul, isn’t as easy as people think.. at that very moment when you realize that leaving your mom is the hardest thing ever you would start talking to the body that carriers no soul and say “how I wish that I have told you how much I loved you” too bad your mom/dad won’t be able to hear a word you say for they are no longer alive.. I really cant understand how some sons/daughters would abuse their parents and carry no regret in their heart.. How can you mistreat or abuse a person who did almost everything to raise you, educate you and nourish you.. Is it because people’s heart has turned into stone nowadays or is it because people think that what goes around doesn’t come around? The way you treat your family is the way your children would treat you so treat your mother and father the best you can for Allah has mentioned in the holy Quran : Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour. (#) And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: “My Lord! bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood.” 
al isra’a 23:24

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I tried to sleep but couldn’t from fear.. I’m scared, I’m frightened.
Oh Allah have mercy on me.. Oh Allah have mercy on me..
While lying on bed I kept thinking of something that comes every now and then, thinking of death.. I don’t know what stimulated this thought but all what I know is that I felt deep pain in my heart, I was gasping for air and praying Allah to take away that thought from me. Yes, from fear.
I can’t imagine that a day will come where I shall die, and my life will come to an end. I can’t imagine that I will no longer breathe, will no longer talk and will no longer walk on the ground but will be buried deep under it. I’m not saying that I don’t believe in death, but what I am saying is that I can’t visualize it happening. I really get scared when this happens because I know that there is no escape from death and that each and everyone living on this earth will die.. Whether they like it or not..
For Allah has mentioned in the holy Quran:  

Every soul shall have a taste of death: And only on the Day of Judgment shall you be paid your full recompense. Only he who is saved far from the Fire and admitted to the Garden will have attained the object (of Life): For the life of this world is but goods and chattels of deception (al-imran: 185) 

We should really strive hard in order to win the highest rank in Paradise 

May Allah have mercy on All muslims. 

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