Your Wife
Most of the articles I read about marriage focus on how women should be faithful, loyal, kind, loving (and so on) to her husband. The articles I read are very beneficial yet I ask myself.. How come we barely find articles that tell the MEN their duty towards their wives? Unfortunately a lot of men believe that they don’t have much duty towards their wives except that they should provide them with shelter, food and clothes..
But what about her emotions, her thoughts, her point of view?
I don’t know why some men don’t take their wives thoughts or suggestions in consideration, or why they don’t like it when their wives ask them –politely- to do something? I’m not pointing out fingers nor am I generalizing.. But I’m just pointing this out so that all men would realize that it’s time that they fulfill their wives –tolerable- needs and wants.. 1) A man should be respectful to his wife and should always remember that he should treat her the way he would like to be treated by her…
2) A man should give his wife the chance to express her feelings, to talk about what’s upsetting her specially that females are very sensitive and emotional.. 3) A man should tolerate his wife when she gets mood swings or when she gets upset because in the end she’s a human with feelings and emotions (I’m not saying he should always tolerate her mood swings but sometimes it happens due to her hormonal changes)
4) A man should accept his wife the way she is, there are some things in a woman that she can’t change about herself so he should accept it because that is how Allah has created her. I remember a story I heard about Omar ibn al khattab, when a man went to complain to him about how his wife speaks out loudly to him, before knocking the door of omar ibn il khattab’s house, he heard the wife of Omar yell at him..
so when Omar saw the man he told him “I came to complain to you about my wife and I find that you are going through the same thing” so Omar ibn il khattab said “how can I not tolerate her when she has raised my kids, washed my clothes…so on.” [I don’t recall the exact words of the story]
subhanAllah, so true.. If your wife has done almost everything for you.. Then you should be thankful for not all women are as good as yours.. Give your wife the chance to be who she is when she’s around you.. Treat your wife the way you want to be treated by her..
See how our beloved Prophet peace be upon him was with his family and what our beloved mentioned about treating your family, we should follow the sunnah: Volume 7, Book 64, Number 276
Narrated Al-Aswad bin Yazid:
I asked ‘Aisha “What did the Prophet use to do at home?” She said, “He used to work for his family, and when he heard the Adhan (call for the prayer), he would go out.”
Please watch this video: 60 ways to keep the love of your wife
some people dont value the blessing if they have it
a good righteous wife is the best thing you have from this dunya
خير المتع الزوجة الصالحه إذا رأيتها أسرتك و إذا أمرتها أطاعتك
إذا كنت في نعمة فرعها—- فإن المعاصي تزيل النعم
و داوم عليها بشكر الإله —- فإن الإله سريع النقم
may Allah provide us with rightous spouses
I have been reading your blog lately and I really liked it. I want to ask permission to copy this topic and put it in my description on flickr. So may I please? ^_^
جزاك الله كل خير
You express your thoughts and opinions in a very impressive way. I admire you my sister.
الدرة المكنونة
wa eyakee..
yes sister,,, you have my permission
but i would really appreciate it if you would mention my site
salamz
oh as always I reeli loved ur blog!
yup! u are totally rite here!
Thank you! Don’t worry I will mention your website.
True True…so when are you going to call up dubai’s awqaf and ask them to write a khutbah on that ?
lool..
inshaALlah someday they’ll talk about this issue
Jazakee ALlah khair for commenting
jazakallah khair for the post. i know, there are so many articles that discuss how women should be but not the other way around. But now i think there are more coming out for both genders.
i’ve tagged you. http://crazyblueh.blogspot.com/2007/04/tagged.html#links You have to state ten things about yourself. But it’s upto you to go ahead with it insha’allah.
masalama
Veiled_muslimah –> thanks for tagging me..
but prefer not to go on w/ it
Jazakee Allah khair anyway
I demand an Update!
Mmmz …
True !
i am not standing with any side ,,
but for a successful marriage both should understand each other ,,
from what i SAW and heard if the man doesn’t treat his wife as he wants her to treat him .. they will have many problems .. and i still don’t understand why some men thinks that there wives are for service and kids !!
she is a human too ,,, if you want her heart you should get the proper KEYS !!
then it will be yours and only yours ,, ^___^