May 30, 2007
To Be Married Or Not To Be!
It was mentioned in the news, a couple of weeks ago, that the amount of unmarried women have exceeded 50% of the female population in my country.. To be honest, this is a HIGH percentage.. When you read such news you get really shocked specially when you know that there is a large number of men out there that are looking for a wife.. I wonder where the 50% came from?
Unfortunately, that wasn’t the only thing that astonished me.. What really astonishes me is when I hear men say “they aren’t ready to get married” or when I hear female’s say “why should I get married when I have freedom now”…
I don’t know where they got these thoughts from but all what I know is that marriage doesn’t constrain you from anything. Yes, marriage is a great responsibility but it’s not like your giving up your soul when you get married. People should not be pessimistic about this issue, they should look at the bright side, they should remember that our Prophet – Peace Be Upon Him – has encouraged the men whom are able to get married to GET MARRIED..
When you approach a man and tell him why haven’t you got married, he’d simply reply “I haven’t lived my life yet, I will get married when I’m 30” this man, who said this exact sentence, haven’t he thought that he may DIE before he actually “Lives his life”
Or when you tell a female “why aren’t you married yet, no one proposed” she would simply say “why constrain myself, I work, I go out and I’m free.. so why take it away”
Haven’t this female ever thought that while “working, being free and living her life” she may get fired from work, or be disabled and be stuck at home and have no one to support her emotionally or psychologically?
Marriage isn’t the way people visualize it, if a man and a wife get along properly they will be able to live and enjoy life while they’re married. You don’t have to be single in order to enjoy life..
Please Read These:
‘Abdullah bin Mas’ud’s Hadith, may Allah be pleased with him.
‘Alqamah related: While I was going along with ‘Abdullah (May Allah be pleased with him) in Mina, ‘Uthman (May Allah be pleased with him) happened to meet him. So he walked and talked with him. Then ‘Uthman asked him: Abu ‘Abdul-Rahman, should we not marry you to a virgin girl that your past may be recalled to your mind? ‘Abdullah said: If you say so, Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) said to us: O young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes (from casting evil glances) and preserves one from immorality; but he who cannot afford it should observe Fast, for it is a means of controlling the sexual desire.
Hadith number in Sahih Muslim [Arabic only]: 2485
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Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, reported:
Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: A woman may be married for four reasons: for her property, her status, her beauty and her religion; so try to get one who is religious, may your hand be besmeared with dust (may you enjoy welfare).
Hadith number in Sahih Muslim [Arabic only]: 2661
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