To Be Married Or Not To Be!
It was mentioned in the news, a couple of weeks ago, that the amount of unmarried women have exceeded 50% of the female population in my country.. To be honest, this is a HIGH percentage.. When you read such news you get really shocked specially when you know that there is a large number of men out there that are looking for a wife.. I wonder where the 50% came from?
Unfortunately, that wasn’t the only thing that astonished me.. What really astonishes me is when I hear men say “they aren’t ready to get married” or when I hear female’s say “why should I get married when I have freedom now”…
I don’t know where they got these thoughts from but all what I know is that marriage doesn’t constrain you from anything. Yes, marriage is a great responsibility but it’s not like your giving up your soul when you get married. People should not be pessimistic about this issue, they should look at the bright side, they should remember that our Prophet – Peace Be Upon Him – has encouraged the men whom are able to get married to GET MARRIED..
When you approach a man and tell him why haven’t you got married, he’d simply reply “I haven’t lived my life yet, I will get married when I’m 30” this man, who said this exact sentence, haven’t he thought that he may DIE before he actually “Lives his life”
Or when you tell a female “why aren’t you married yet, no one proposed” she would simply say “why constrain myself, I work, I go out and I’m free.. so why take it away”
Haven’t this female ever thought that while “working, being free and living her life” she may get fired from work, or be disabled and be stuck at home and have no one to support her emotionally or psychologically?
Marriage isn’t the way people visualize it, if a man and a wife get along properly they will be able to live and enjoy life while they’re married. You don’t have to be single in order to enjoy life..
Please Read These:
‘Abdullah bin Mas’ud’s Hadith, may Allah be pleased with him.
‘Alqamah related: While I was going along with ‘Abdullah (May Allah be pleased with him) in Mina, ‘Uthman (May Allah be pleased with him) happened to meet him. So he walked and talked with him. Then ‘Uthman asked him: Abu ‘Abdul-Rahman, should we not marry you to a virgin girl that your past may be recalled to your mind? ‘Abdullah said: If you say so, Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) said to us: O young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes (from casting evil glances) and preserves one from immorality; but he who cannot afford it should observe Fast, for it is a means of controlling the sexual desire.
Hadith number in Sahih Muslim [Arabic only]: 2485
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Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, reported:
Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: A woman may be married for four reasons: for her property, her status, her beauty and her religion; so try to get one who is religious, may your hand be besmeared with dust (may you enjoy welfare).
Hadith number in Sahih Muslim [Arabic only]: 2661
wonderfully written post…
yzach Allah kil 5ayr fid darayn..
i frankly cannot FATHOM HOOOWW girls can say i want 2 build my career n get married wen im 23-25…HOW…HOOOWWW???!
again..as u said..how do they kno that they’ll live that long? im fed up of these type of answers actually…i tell ppl not 2 do sumthn…they say ‘ohhh…but this is our tym 2 enjoy…after this we’ll be slaves of our men’
…!! xcuse me?! SLAVES of ur MEN?? el 3iyaath billaah..i thought we were tha slaves of ALLAH..
sadly..state is gettin worse day by day…they’d rather hav ‘boyfriends’ n ‘LOVERS’ than get married…they dont want 2 get ‘tied down’ by a man…they choose 7araam over 7alaal..
Allah yhdeena jmee3n…Ummat M7ammad is in a deep sleep…w Allaahu a3lam wen we are goin 2 wake up & realize that we’re trapped in tha darkness of ‘3fleh…
nice post sis ,, and i agree with u in all the words u said ,,
but you know , it is not the same for all men that they can get married ..
a new bride needs money , house , car , maid ..etc ,,
from where i can get all these stuff ,, i am not borned with a stick of gold !!
i am not saying all people are the same ,, but from what i see ,,
these men are not qualified to get married now ,, they need to be raised up and skilled ,, they dont read about familiy life and how to raise ur childrens ,,
and with any spark ,, they divorce !! and leave the poor wife ..
BOTH should be educated from school level ,, or in Universities ,, as a sochial course
Allah yhdeena jmee3n…
and i wish all single people get married soon (( including me ))
lol worst part is the divorce rate… ah! talk about the people who even get married…most of them don’t even acknowledge the basic rights of each other. Where do you think those females get those weird concepts from, i.e. Marriage = Enslavement or Restriction… that’s simply because they have witnessed a practical example of what marriage is like… talk about men, they just don’t want to take over the responsibility… for most of them Responsibility = Burden .. and perhaps that might be what they’ve witnessed in their culture …
As far as I know, most of those ignorant youth out there simply step away from the concept of marriage is because they know their rights are going to be stripped off once they get married…
Now
Why are they crazy about valentine… because there’s a Belief and an Action involved over there. People believe in it and they act upon it.
Why are they not interested in marriage … because Belief is there and the Action is missing. People believe in it but are least bother to act upon it.
Okay, that was a long comment…lol
MIB –> Jazakee Allah khair
Bo3ouf –> true.. the dowry is another reason to make men have second thoughts about marriage.. but there are girls who dont ask for much
Creation –> no worries about your long post..
so true what you mentioned about them being so into valentines..
i mean marriage is a MUST to those who can get married..
As for me… i ocnsider marriage as a big risk..
Fears shape my thoughts about marriage and that’s very normal.. due to the many tragedy disgusting betrayal stories we hear in our country, U.A.E…. no ownder we have the number one Divorce PErcentege in hte whole world..
we , the cititzens, cant be blamed for what we have of thoughts…
and yes, due to the stodies i hear.. i cant bear myself putting myself in a risky status… where my husband may betray me or not..
As for me, i know myself im a sincere person, and that i cant handle any1 who would hurt my feelings or betray my trust… thus… i prefer to be risk averse… and not be married except to the One that Allah KnowS is best for me.. and who fits my picture, someone who is religious and nevertheless, repectful… not all religius ppl have go0d manners, and i dont uderstand why!!!
The betrayal is true, I just heard the weirdest stories recently, of Married men sleeping with married women (not their wives). Each betraying their spouses.
To what level have we stooped? Allah el musta3an, Allaahumma 3afina wa3fu 3anna wa7fadhna anta khayrun 7afidhun wa anta ar7amu elra7meen !