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Each person has his/her own way in defining things, for example boring to me means sitting in my room and doing nothing, whereas to others boring means going to the mall and buying nothing. It all depends on how people view things. When it comes to weddings, people come to you and tell you that the wedding they went to was “extremely fun”, at that moment you start thinking, fun in what way?
People, sadly, have in mind that a “fun” wedding should be a wedding with loud music, dancing and a lot of craziness. Unfortunately, this definition has not been heard from a person or two but from a huge number of people.
However, a “fun” wedding can be fun without doing anything that Allah has forbidden, it can be fun without music, it can be fun without dancing and it can be fun by doing many creative things. It all depends on how innovative you are, and how clever you are to do great things in a way that Allah has permitted.
I have heard people talk about weddings that have many dancing shows for ex.  Indian dance, then the Iranian and then the Arabian dance and they talk about it as if they have seen an Alien. I really don’t find that entertaining but I find it a waste of time because a wedding isn’t about having fun and being loud but is about inviting people to dinner and to see the bride FULL STOP!. People, however, made the wedding seem very complicated and hard by trying to do things to entertain their guests so that it would be “FUN” when they are actually disobeying Allah and throwing away their money on things Allah has forbidden.
All what people should do is have fun but in the right way and right path.
 I really advice people to RE-define the word “FUN” in a correct way, so that they would remain on the right track.
May Allah forgive all Muslims.
Ameen

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There he was, after all those years, he came to me. It was hard for me to tell that whether he was happy to see me or whether he was so desperate to be by my side. I stood there standing still, I couldn’t move a muscle. I felt paralyzed for some time. Was it from excitement, joy, Or from fear from being around that person.
I looked him in the eye and remembered the previous years when he was a little child, how he always used to stick around me, how he always depended on me and how he always obeyed me. But then, it came back, the memory of his bad behavior, of when he brought us nothing but shame!!
He came to me, bowed down on his knees and kissed me on my head.
“I’m sorry mother, I’m sorry for not being an obedient son”
Nowadays, unfortunately when you, as a parent, would advise your child they would think that you want to take away their freedom and joy where in reality you are looking for their own good. As soon as they realize that you scarified almost everything to protect them, it would be too late for them to erase their mistakes so at that time they should accept the consequences. Just like the story I mentioned above, when a mother advises a child, they advise them because they wouldn’t want to see their children in trouble or see them in shame, but unfortunately children nowadays treat their foe’s as their family and friends, and treat their families and friends as foe’s.
            I don’t understand how at times, a girl would hit her mother or a son would send his father to an elderly shelter. I wonder how cruel they are and how harsh their heart is when I hear of such incidence. After all those years of raising you to become a good Muslim, you repay them by mistreating them and disobeying them?
            Read What the Quran has to say about the parents:
[23] Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour.
[24] And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: “My Lord! bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood.”  [al-isra’a]
            So please, if you find your self harsh to your parents then try to be more lenient, because as we know what goes around comes around and a day will come when your child will treat you just like how you treated your parents

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