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Many people, unfortunately, believe that money buys happiness and love. The more money you spend on them or give them the more they feel that you love them. Although It is true, that Islam encourages us to give gifts in order to get closer to people, but not to the extent that you may bribe the person or try to BUY their love and attention. It is somehow unethical. If you want to win someone over, it is by having a good heart and by caring for that person but not by giving them money and wait for them to treat you like a king or queen.

If that will be the case, that we let people buy our love by money, then what about those who have kind hearts yet don’t have much money? Would we NOT love them? Would we neglect them and go to those who have more money?

Life isn’t about money, but is about the value of things. Giving a gift to someone in order to show them how much you care or to let them know that you are sorry for a mistake that you have done isn’t wrong, Even if you give them money. I really pity those who try to buy people’s love and attention by throwing away their money, because once they are out of money those people whom they won their love by money may simply walk out of the door and let them love alone in misery.

My whole point is that give gifts or money to family members, friends or the poor in order to show them that you care but don’t do that just to win their love by the act or bribery.

May our intentions be for the Sake of Allah.

Ameen

Comments(4)

Dear mother,

I can’t forget the day my little sister came to me, crying and asking me will mommy die from cancer, I looked confused not knowing what she was saying. However, when I looked at you mom holding your cigar I then knew what she meant. Mother, look in the eye of my little sister, look at the fear that is eating her, the fear of losing you due to the consequences of smoking.

 Many people around you who suffer from cancer wish to be as healthy as you, wish to be breathing normally, and wish to stop taking chemotherapy. Yet here you are holding the cigarette selling your life at a cheap price in order to satisfy the urge of feeling calm and cool. Mother, haven’t you thought of how much pain you will go through once you get cancer? Haven’t you thought of the pain that we’ll go through when we lose you? Haven’t you thought of how much you are affecting our health? Mother, sister and I don’t want to be raised by our father only; we need you by our side. We want your love, care and tender. Mom, a mother’s love is irreplaceable and it is very valuable so please don’t take it away from us, don’t let your urge for something that will do you no good be the reason for us to lose a loving mother. So mother please, stop smoking. Please stop.