candle-of-hope.com Blog

People’s interference
“Don’t do this”
“say this to your husband”
“go out without your husbands approval”
“don’t listen to your husband”

These are the advises that you will be hearing a lot during marriage, specially in the first years of life. People tend to act like expertise where they believe that their package of advises will save your marriage where in reality they are putting a hole in your ship of marriage.
People shouldn’t interfere in others marriage life, if they have something beneficial to say such as “be an obedient wife”, “do as your husband says” and “don’t go anywhere unless your husband approves” then they should start talking. However, if they have a lot of non-sense to say than they should just stay away from people rather than ruining their life.
            Unfortunately, many girls “go with the flow” and do as the others tell them to do, they do it because they think that listening to others will benefit them. What they should do is listen to Islamic scholars, lectures and read books. They should hear things from people who are expertise in such issue’s, they should follow the sunnah rather than follow women who barely know anything about Islam.
            Marriage isn’t a fairy tale, where only love surrounds you. Everything in life has ups and downs, even marriage. That is why if a woman faces difficulty in her marriage, she should take the critical steps, she should pray Allah to help her out, try to solve it by her self if not possible then seek help from those who are trustful. Don’t go to a woman who hasn’t talked to her husband for years for advice, nor go to a woman who is disobedient and disrespectful to her husband but go to the one who sweet talks her husband and follows the Islamic rules in her own kingdom.
            Finally, I would like to advise people not to interfere in people’s personal life specially when it is a very sensitive issue. Try to help or support your friend in the right.