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February 3, 2008

Our Goodbye’s

February 03rd 2008 Posted to خواطر

The hardest thing to go through in life, is when you are obliged to say goodbye to the one’s you love. Even if the good bye isnt forever, but still just by saying it you find yourself drowned by your tears and surrounded by sadness. You start realizing that a crucial part in you shall vanish or shall drift away from you after holding on to it very tightly. But when you come to think of it again, you ask yourself “what about those who leave their loved one’s to battle for islam?” or “those innocent people who have been killed and their families were forced to say good bye to them?”
how do you expect them to feel when they say good bye?
Many people tell you that you should be strong, yet you find yourself no matter how strong you try to be a tiny part in your heart remains vulnerable then this tiny part overpowers your heart and you find yourself fully weak.
Although not all goodbye’s mean death, or a negative separation. Some good bye’s could mean “see you next weekend” or “see you after the vacation”. However because of how close a person is to you, you refuse to give them up and let fate join you back again.

This is just a reminder to us all, that someday sometime we may lose a close person either voluntary or involuntary so we should seize every moment we spend with them..

May Allah forgive all Muslims

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January 10, 2008

GoodBye

January 10th 2008 Posted to خواطر

I will be away for sometime..
Maybe weeks or months..
Only Allah himself knows til when..

Don’t forget me in your Dua’a Please

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December 20, 2007

Birdie & Hope

December 20th 2007 Posted to خواطر

Birdie shed a tear and looked around her, looking at the people who have lost hope. She felt their pain and sorrow through their eyes, but she knew that If only they believed strongly that hope still existed then they wouldn’t be as sad as they are right now. Birdie walked like a lost child, wandering, not knowing where she was heading to. Everywhere she went she found a person crying, cursing hope and trying to stop themselves from dreaming. Birdie felt sad, so lost and so confused. Why are people so pessimistic? Why can’t they be optimistic about life? Why can’t they just let time tell?

As birdie walked quietly, between the crowds, she found a women holding onto something with her eyes closed so tightly. It was a weird moment.
Birdie moved closer to her and bent down, she kept looking at the woman, trying to figure out what she was focusing her mind on. She touched the woman so gently, the woman opened her eyes and looked at birdie and smiled so calmly. Birdie, out of a sudden, felt so secure, so ease inside and so calm. The woman’s eyes were glowing with happiness, joy and h hope.

Birdie and the lady just stared at each other for minutes, then the lady whispered “go.. You don’t belong here” Birdie didn’t want to let go of the woman’s hand. But she had to because the woman kept on repeating so gently “just go.. Hope is waiting” Birdie got up and walked away slowly, Then turned back to look at the woman because her existence there was so inevitable. As the time birdie turned to look at her, the last was gone, simply not there. Birdie smiled then shrugged and went on to the path that the woman had told her to take. The lady was like a beautiful diamond lost in a huge sea. As birdie kept walking, people around her kept looking at her strangely. Birdie paid them no attention and went on. She head people around her shout “there’s no hope! Give up!” Bride smiled sarcastically and continued walking. She believed deep down that hope is just one step away. She knew that her dreams will all come true; it is all just a matter of time. Life is like a battle field, in order to live, you should be able to compete and that was what birdie was doing. She learnt the art of war in order to fight people who try to let her lost hope. She knew that now nothing could stop her from fulfilling her dreams. She believed strongly that her Creator – Allah- would make her dreams come true, she only has to believe it more and more and hopefully her dreams will get fulfilled. Written on : 27/11/2005

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November 23, 2007

Locked Up Feelings

November 23rd 2007 Posted to خواطر

In life, it is very normal for us to be in situations where different emotions arise. At times, you find yourself very mad at a close friend, upset from a family member or jealous from a stranger. Most emotions are uncontrollable. Emotions are found within every living thing, its inevitable.

However, not all people can express their feelings properly or decently.

Some people can tell the person who upsets them, that they hurt their feelings but sometimes people just lock things in their heart and expect time to heal it.

It is difficult to tell a person whom you care about that they have hurt you, or that they have broken your heart specially when that person is very close to you. You fear that you may hurt their feelings or just make things worse so you sit quietly and act as if nothing happened. Unfortunately, locking things in you isn’t the right solution, because you become more vulnerable by time and a time will come when you will simply collapse. Building up these feelings would not lead to a happy ending, but may destroy and harm you physically and psychologically.

Sometimes you would wish that there was some kind of an invention that would tell the person who hurt you how you feel exactly and tell them how deeply hurt you are, because you know that when you get the courage to express your feelings you simply mess up and make things worse.

Locking up your feelings may at times be good, but not always.

Unfortunately, In the long run it has a lot of consequences.

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November 11, 2007

People’s interference

November 11th 2007 Posted to خواطر

People’s interference
“Don’t do this”
“say this to your husband”
“go out without your husbands approval”
“don’t listen to your husband”

These are the advises that you will be hearing a lot during marriage, specially in the first years of life. People tend to act like expertise where they believe that their package of advises will save your marriage where in reality they are putting a hole in your ship of marriage.
People shouldn’t interfere in others marriage life, if they have something beneficial to say such as “be an obedient wife”, “do as your husband says” and “don’t go anywhere unless your husband approves” then they should start talking. However, if they have a lot of non-sense to say than they should just stay away from people rather than ruining their life.
            Unfortunately, many girls “go with the flow” and do as the others tell them to do, they do it because they think that listening to others will benefit them. What they should do is listen to Islamic scholars, lectures and read books. They should hear things from people who are expertise in such issue’s, they should follow the sunnah rather than follow women who barely know anything about Islam.
            Marriage isn’t a fairy tale, where only love surrounds you. Everything in life has ups and downs, even marriage. That is why if a woman faces difficulty in her marriage, she should take the critical steps, she should pray Allah to help her out, try to solve it by her self if not possible then seek help from those who are trustful. Don’t go to a woman who hasn’t talked to her husband for years for advice, nor go to a woman who is disobedient and disrespectful to her husband but go to the one who sweet talks her husband and follows the Islamic rules in her own kingdom.
            Finally, I would like to advise people not to interfere in people’s personal life specially when it is a very sensitive issue. Try to help or support your friend in the right.

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October 16, 2007

Does Money Buy Love?

October 16th 2007 Posted to خواطر

Many people, unfortunately, believe that money buys happiness and love. The more money you spend on them or give them the more they feel that you love them. Although It is true, that Islam encourages us to give gifts in order to get closer to people, but not to the extent that you may bribe the person or try to BUY their love and attention. It is somehow unethical. If you want to win someone over, it is by having a good heart and by caring for that person but not by giving them money and wait for them to treat you like a king or queen.

If that will be the case, that we let people buy our love by money, then what about those who have kind hearts yet don’t have much money? Would we NOT love them? Would we neglect them and go to those who have more money?

Life isn’t about money, but is about the value of things. Giving a gift to someone in order to show them how much you care or to let them know that you are sorry for a mistake that you have done isn’t wrong, Even if you give them money. I really pity those who try to buy people’s love and attention by throwing away their money, because once they are out of money those people whom they won their love by money may simply walk out of the door and let them love alone in misery.

My whole point is that give gifts or money to family members, friends or the poor in order to show them that you care but don’t do that just to win their love by the act or bribery.

May our intentions be for the Sake of Allah.

Ameen

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August 23, 2007

Dear Friend..

August 23rd 2007 Posted to خواطر

Dear Friend,

I gaze at you, as if I am gazing at a total stranger. As if you and I were never friends. You talk to me as if I am your worse enemy and I tend to avoid you as if we were never once considered as sisters. I don’t understand why can’t you forgive me for the “change” I went through in life. No one consulted me about whether I wanted to ‘change’ or be the same, it happened without my will. It took me a while to realize how much I have changed and how negligent I have become to you. Maybe I have hurt you by my actions, but believe me it’s not like I wanted to. It happened uncontrollably.

We know that as Muslims we should forgive others, we should find in our heart a place for forgiveness, because if we don’t forgive then this life would be built only on hatred. This is Satan’s way to make us get apart, to throw our friendship down the drain. You may think that you are the victim in this whole issue, yet what about me? Only Allah himself knows what I went through and that I am a victim too.

We shouldn’t always look at the past and remember the mistakes that people have done, but what we should do is focus on how to improve things and avoid the mistakes done in the past.
Although they have always told us that “you can’t always fix a broken glass”, however I disagree. Even though we may not be able to remove away the cracks on the broken glass, but we will be able to fix it and put the pieces back together.

I’m writing this letter hoping that you would be a little bit considerate, and not let Satan control your actions.

Yours sincerely,
Candle of hope

May Allah forgive all Muslims
Ameen
A letter to my visitors: We humans are hasty in judgments’, all what I ask from you is to understand the persons point of view and try to be considerate before judging them wrongly. Forgive those who ask you for forgiveness.

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June 29, 2007

Be Happy For Others

June 29th 2007 Posted to خواطر

As a little child, when you used to receive your report card and find out that you got high grades, you would run as fast as you could to spread out the news so that everyone around you would congratulate you and share your joy. Even now, as we grow older, this is still within us. The more you share your happy news with people the more you feel happy. However, as a child when you go back home with good grades and no one seems to care, this situation would de-motivate you and would easily tear out the happiness in your heart. Instead of you celebrating your good achievement, you would feel upset because no one cared to share your happiness and joy. I don’t know why sometimes, the people close to you become so “cold” emotionally, specially when they know that their happiness places a crucial role in your life. What even hurts the most is when people who aren’t so close to you are the ones who are truly happy for you. As Muslim brothers and sisters, we should always share the happiness and joy of each other. specially when we know that our happiness for them would put a BIG smile on their face. No matter what the situation was, you should still be happy for your friend as long as they aren’t doing something that Allah has forbidden..

If you would like people to be happy for you, then be happy for people.. As our Prophet - Peace Be Upon Him – mentioned:

عن أنس بن مالك رضي الله عنه خادم رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال : ( لايؤمن أحدكم حتى يحب لأخيه ما يحب لنفسه ) ، رواه البخاري و مسلم .

I would like to congratulate my friends for their wedding ^_^ May Allah bless you with a happy life after marriage.. Ameen

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June 19, 2007

Nothing Remains Unchanged

June 19th 2007 Posted to خواطر

Nothing in life remains unchanged, everything around you changes, whether it has a slight or huge change.. The path you follow, the people you are with, the life you live and the ones you care about.. It all changes because “change” lies within each and everything that is on earth.. change is a word that all people fear.. because we don’t what the consequences would be.. Yet we accept it sometimes because we have no other choice..

The changes we go through life may be hard for us to accept, yet the only choice we have is to accept it and be obedient to Allah because Allah himself knows what’s best for us…

May all the changes we go through be for our benefit.. Ameen

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May 25, 2007

My Health Problem

May 25th 2007 Posted to خواطر

Lately, I have been going through a lot.. Been having a lot of health problems.. Two days ago when I went to the hospital I was diagnosed with some kind of health problem.. All what I can say is alhamdulillah ala kulee hal..
I haven’t been like how I was before.. Been very lazy, tired, weak and very pessimistic..
I don’t know why? The doctor told me that what triggered the health problem was stress.. and yes I have been stressed out a lot lately.. but from what.. I don’t know..

Today on my way home, I tried to compare myself with those who have severe diseases..I did that in order to be thankful to Allah that my problem isn’t as severe as others..

Alhamdulillah ala kulee hal..

I sometimes think that maybe the reason of all these problems is because I have been very distant from Allah,,, haven’t been doing a lot of good deeds..
or maybe it’s a test from Allah to see my patience…

InshaAllah I get over this problem soon..

Please make dua’a for me.. and for all the Muslims who need your prayers.

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May 18, 2007

My little sister’s post

May 18th 2007 Posted to خواطر

My 10 year old sister astonished me yesterday when she told me that she keeps reading my website every now and then.. Although i knew that but i didnt know that she visited it frequently..

Anyhow, my sister was influenced by one of my post and asked me to post something she wrote about her friend.. So i’ll leave you with her post..
please say mashaAlah first

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RESPECT YOUR fATHERS!

I youse to have a friend who youse to have a kind loving father. She youse respect him everyday, not even one day she didn’t respect her father. Last day she saw her father when she came back from school. After when it was dark in the night her father had a heart attack that was the last time she saw her father. Her father died when she was in fourth grade now she’s in 5th with me. I felt very sorry for her when I knew that father died when she was in 4th grade, she was absent the 2nd day her father died. When she first came to my class in 5th grade i felt sorry or her everybody did even the teachers. Know she got use to it ELHAMDOLELLAH.

SO PLEASE PRAY ON HER SO ALLAH WELL GIVE YOU AGER AND THAWAB PLEASE I SAY PLEASE PRAY ON HER THANK YOU AND MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU ALL THANK YOU VERY MUCH.

DONE BY: 10 YEAR OLD GIRL

THE SISTER OF THE OWNER OF THIS SITE.

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May 7, 2007

Every soul shall have a taste of death

May 07th 2007 Posted to خواطر

She didn’t attend class on that day and it was unlike her, specially that she had a presentation on that day… her mobile was off, she hadn’t attended class the next day.. It’s getting awkward..
subhanAllah.. After the approval of our university we went all the way to her house by the bus, it was a very long trip for she lived in a rural area.. We had to visit her, it was a must.. How could we not visit our friend when she needs us the most.. When the one she loves has left her and died.. When her father has passed away.
I remember how she looked like when we first entered, her head bowed down while her tears were shedding.. ahhh, I could see the pain in her eyes, how much pain she was going through.. She suddenly cried more and more as she hugged us and kept saying “baba is gone, baba is no longer here”
Her words gripped my heart, I couldn’t handle it, yet we had to be strong to provide her with social support.
Her dad was healthy, but subhanAllah, he slipped in the bathroom and hit the back of his head on the bath tub and now he is buried deep down in the ground being questioned by the angels..
His death was unexpected, yet he / she and all of us were supposed to expect that..

Every soul shall have a taste of death: and only on the Day of Judgment shall you be paid your full recompense. Only he who is saved far from the Fire and admitted to the Garden will have attained the object (of Life): for the life of this world is but goods and chattels of deception. (al-imran: 185)

And the stupor of death will bring Truth (before his eyes): “This was the thing which thou wast trying to escape!” (Qaf– 18)

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March 5, 2007

“Shall I die” she asked

March 05th 2007 Posted to خواطر

I looked at her while she was lying on her bed, acting as if everything is ok.
Who is she fooling? For sadness can be seen through her innocent eyes. She looked around, laughed and joked trying to stand still just for the sake of her mother. She doesn’t want us to see her vulnerable.. I tried my best not to show that I was staring at the scar but I couldn’t, tell me how wouldn’t I stare at the huge scar that was on the girls head. The hair on that part of her head was shaved because of the surgery. Due to the surgery, she lost all her senses on the right side of her face. She feels nothing on that side.. Ya Allah..
SubhanAllah.
She was living her live with complete health yet it was all taken away from her in seconds, subhanAllah.. It’s out of her hands and out of our hands. For Allah himself is the only healer.

Hearing the news about her suffering from cancer isn’t an easy thing to hear. I have never faced such situation. Cancer a word that strikes you so hard, a word which you wish would not be heard in your house. But subhanAllah, we finally heard it and we can’t erase it. The girl is only 17 , yet she has cancer in her head. Even though they have removed the tumor yet a part is still there because it’s surrounded by very sensitive nerves of her brain… Ya Allah… Ya Allah..
When I went over at her house, I looked at her and felt very upset because I fear that I may lose her, fighting cancer needs a lot of strength. Standing still in order to face it needs a lot of courage and believe me, it’s not easy. I see how the girl tries to act normal but til when will she hide her fear.
Today, unfortunately, the girl was forced to shave all of her hair.The little girl cried. Ya Allah.. It’s really hard to know that you are suffering from something in which there is a chance where you may not be cured and may say goodbye to all your family…
inshaAllah she’ll start chemotherapy by tomorrow maybe.. Ya Allah..
How one thing can change your lifestyle.. I really advise all people to be aware of their behavior and get closer to Allah, for who knows.. You may have cancer and never be cured..
Please make dua’a for her..
Ya Allah, please heal all the sick Muslims..

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