You fake a smile, to show them that you are ok and nothing is wrong but in reality you are a wreck from inside. your heart is shattered into pieces and your bleeding from inside. You can’t show them how hurt you are because you know that they wont understand, they wont listen to you. You get up and head towards the door, quietly to avoid catching anyone’s attention. You open the door and walk, it seems like the path you’re taking has no end, but it doesnt matter to you. All what you want to do is escape, run away and be on your own. So you go on with your voyage, walking in an endless path. The sun rays seem to refresh you, the air seems to clear your airway and the birds singing clears your hearing. You then find yourself bumping into a wall, a wall that seems to be blocking yourpath towards freedom. so you sit there and gaze, hoping that by waiting the wall would break by itself.  So you sit and wait, hearing the time tick and seeing the days go by just waiting for the wall to collapse rather than breaking it by yourself……

Its not easy when people start questioning you,, start to question your abiility In doing things. They sometimes make you feel incompetent, make you feel like a loser. They doubt your abilities in everything and say it out loud, or may sometimes hint it to you. They may even tell others and change people’s impression about you. They don’t realize that by this behavior they are breaking you down, and make you feel weaker and weaker. To them , those words that come out of their mouths may seem normal or not harmful, but it can make great damage to one’s inner self. People would start to have doubts about themselves, they would feel that they no longer have confidence in them. That is why people should be careful in choosing their words and in criticizing others. Not everything goes the way people want, each person navigates things the way they see is right. Which means people don’t have the right to question you, specially If what you’re doing is right.

We should realize that sometimes people’s words may be behind the destruction of others, you should look at one’s good side rather than their flaws. You shouldn’t keep stepping on their self esteem. It’s not easy when a person questions you as a mother, or questions your ability as a housewife or as a friend. They think that you know nothing, not because you actually don’t know anything but because they refuse to see that you are good in what you are doing.

We shouldn’t judge people based on our assumption, Allah will question us about this.

People are not always given the chance to prove themselves, neither are they given the chance to show who they really are. We jump to conclusions and assumptions acting as if we know how the person is thinking or what their intention is behind their actions. Unfortunately, we don’t always know how people think or what people have in mind. It’s just that we don’t allow ourselves to listen to them or try to understand them. We have this image of that person in our head and it stays with us as long as we live, but we don’t try to understand that person more. This behavior leads to a lot of misunderstandings and a lot of hard feelings. That is why, we should try our best to hear what the other person has to say and not make our own assumptions. One major drawback of this behavior is that it leads to “bad assumption” which is known as “so’u al than” and we know that this is not welcomed in our Religion, we as Muslims. Not all people are aware that this behavior lies within them and not all know how this affects the other person, the person who is THOUGHT to be understood but the truth is that they know little about them. We should try to get to know people better before jumping to conclusions in order to reduce the chances of a conflict occurring and hard feelings. 

This advice I give to myself and to all the readers, 

May Allah forgive all Muslims