May14
Its not easy when people start questioning you,, start to question your abiility In doing things. They sometimes make you feel incompetent, make you feel like a loser. They doubt your abilities in everything and say it out loud, or may sometimes hint it to you. They may even tell others and change people’s impression about you. They don’t realize that by this behavior they are breaking you down, and make you feel weaker and weaker. To them , those words that come out of their mouths may seem normal or not harmful, but it can make great damage to one’s inner self. People would start to have doubts about themselves, they would feel that they no longer have confidence in them. That is why people should be careful in choosing their words and in criticizing others. Not everything goes the way people want, each person navigates things the way they see is right. Which means people don’t have the right to question you, specially If what you’re doing is right.
We should realize that sometimes people’s words may be behind the destruction of others, you should look at one’s good side rather than their flaws. You shouldn’t keep stepping on their self esteem. It’s not easy when a person questions you as a mother, or questions your ability as a housewife or as a friend. They think that you know nothing, not because you actually don’t know anything but because they refuse to see that you are good in what you are doing.
We shouldn’t judge people based on our assumption, Allah will question us about this.
May5
Here are some anasheed , Enjoy
Ya 5ooy
ya9a7ibee
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The Agony of Divorce
my orphan tear
March7
It’s not easy for a mother to hear that her child has passed away, no matter how old her child was the pain would still exist. The mother would feel as if someone ripped’ out her heart, while some would feel that a part of them no longer exists. Once you hear the news about your babys death, you’d feel as if the world has come to an end. You would start crying thinking about the little baby who lied dead within you. Even if the evidence was there, you would try in anyways to prove the doctor wrong. In such situation one should say ‘الحمدلله على كل حال، قدر الله وماشاء فعل
To new mothers, hearing the words “dead” , “no heartbeat” or “no growth” isnt something they would want to hear, all what they are looking for is to hear that the “little baby is fine”.
ALot of mothers nowadays tend to get abortion as soon as they realise that they are pregnant. Some think its easy to murder the child while its still too early. While others think it would end their misery of having to be responsible for another child. They don’t think about the consequences in the judgment day, neither do they think about the innocent baby. All they think about is their rest and relaxation. Allah has blessed you with this child, a gift that many women are deprived of. ALot of married women pray Allah daily to bless them with a child, but they find themselves infertile or they baby would simply die in their womb at an early stage by Allahs will.
A mother should be thankful that Allah has given her the chance to hear the word “mom” while others pass away before getting the chance to hear it. We shouldn’t think about ourselves only, but should think about the punishment we will received in judgment day for killing an innocent soul for our own comfort.
January12
A cry from hell woke me up at night
something gripped my heart so tight
the cry of whom which i dont know
piercing through my ears so painfully and slow
i thought it was satan or some demon
or a person who was filled with evilness and treason
here again, the cry could be heard
it shut everyone up even the humming bird
the cry from hell seemed like a hopeless cry
maybe it was a demon just passing by
the cry from hell called out my name
at that moment i knew that it was no game
it scared me alot in some way
so i wore my hijab and started to pray
the cry from hell started to fade away
i started to observe my sins since that day
written by: Candle-of-hope (17/7/2003)
December23
The Abayas lately have been the core attention of everyone including designers, magazines and women. The main purpose of wearing an abaya has changed. In the past, wearing an abaya was part of our tradition (unfortunately it was more than religion), now although its still part of our “culture” but it is more due to fashion. The whole purpose of wearing an abaya is to cover your body and to avoid being the center of attention. In other words to avoid harassment. The abaya should be plain, not tight and not a see-through. Its not hard to see that the rate of girls and women being raped in non-muslim countries are very high , it’s because of how they dress and of course other factors . When you are well covered you protect yourself from the wolves and find yourself like an expensive pearl in a safe haven. You find other people stand by your side and defend you when something wrong happens. It’s because they feel that you are valuable.
It’s ironic how in the past, when we used to go to weddings, we focused on the dress that we would wear, now I don’t think that is necessary anymore since the abaya itself is a wedding gown. I won’t deny that they are beautiful, but still, an abaya isn’t worn to catch people’s attention. If so, then what would the difference be between wearing an abaya and wearing a long sleeved party dress?
Unfortunately, some abayas are so tight that you would think the woman wearing it had to use Vaseline to slip her way into the dress. Sometimes she would wear an abaya that you would think that she is wearing a party dress instead.
Some may think that we are speaking out of jealousy and others may think its because we are “close minded” but truly speaking we are speaking because we know that it is wrong. We know that you need a WAKE UP call to let you realize that what you’re wearing isn’t actually an abaya, it isnt what our beloved Prophet- Peace be Upon him- told us to wear. We know that Allah shall punish us because it is considered as a sin and because what you are wearing catches the attention of men rather than repel their attention.
I really don’t mean to make fun of those who wear semi-abaya’s , but I pity them for they are missing the whole purpose of covering their body properly. It’s not like you can’t wear those abaya’s, you can wear them if you are in a place surrounded by women or a place where you know that all of them are your mahram.
وَلا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَائِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُولِي الإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَى عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاءِ وَلا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِنْ زِينَتِهِنَّ وَتُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ ) النور/31
December3

لبيك اللهم لبيك،، لبيك لا شريك لك لبيك
October11
As soon as the alarm clock went on, I jumped out of bed and headed towards the bathroom. I was too busy wearing my make-up and fixing my camel hump that I didn’t realize I haven’t prayed al fajr prayer. I rushed out of home, because I was worried that I may miss my first class because our professor has warned us about being late in his class. I drove as fast as I could, almost causing an accident and almost being caught by the radar. At that time, I didn’t care if all of the radars caught me. I just wanted to be in class before the professor. I reached class, it was my break time, should I pray or sit with my friends , gossip and chit chat about new movies and songs. Oh, it’s al duhr prayer, unfortunately I can’t pray my class will start in 5 minutes. I need time until I make my wudu’ and put back on my make-up.
Well, It’s 5 pm now and it’s time to go home. I just want to reach home and relax before studying; I will pray all what I missed as soon as I reach home. “Allah Akhar, Allaah Akbar…….” Oh , it’s now al maghrib time, when will this traffic jam. “La ilaaah ila Allaaaah..” “Our poor girl, she was a hard worker. She always wanted to be the first in everything, her studies, fashion and even in the world of gossip. She was the first in everything except her prayers, who knew she would die so young.”
Down under, lying in a dark place, she could hear the footsteps of the people who she expected would always be around her. She could hear them talk about her, whisper her name and walk away from her, leaving her all by herself to face the angels in the grave questioning her about her faith and actions. Her death was unplanned; she was too busy living her life that she forgot about her prayers and about the hereafter. Now, she is left with her deeds and actions, but would the gossips, negligence of prayers and music do her any good? Believe me, it wouldn’t. This is just a reminder to Myself and all Muslims that our Prayers come first.
Remember, Death doesn’t come knocking on your door.
May Allah forgive all muslims
September3
Alhamdulillah Ramadan came, the beauty of this month. Unfortunately, people don’t look at its beauty as much as they look at the food that they will be eating and the series that they will be watching. I believe that we have the wrong concept of ramadan. Many believe that ramadan is about watching the T.V series, eating and eating and eating. Lately, the supermarkets have been out of chicken and other things. Why do people consider ramadan as a month that requires making all kinds of new recipes and cookings. InshaAllah people get aware of the ajir in Ramadan and not waste this month on things that will not benefit them in the hereafter..
Ramadan Kareem to all..
May4
People are not always given the chance to prove themselves, neither are they given the chance to show who they really are. We jump to conclusions and assumptions acting as if we know how the person is thinking or what their intention is behind their actions. Unfortunately, we don’t always know how people think or what people have in mind. It’s just that we don’t allow ourselves to listen to them or try to understand them. We have this image of that person in our head and it stays with us as long as we live, but we don’t try to understand that person more. This behavior leads to a lot of misunderstandings and a lot of hard feelings. That is why, we should try our best to hear what the other person has to say and not make our own assumptions. One major drawback of this behavior is that it leads to “bad assumption” which is known as “so’u al than” and we know that this is not welcomed in our Religion, we as Muslims. Not all people are aware that this behavior lies within them and not all know how this affects the other person, the person who is THOUGHT to be understood but the truth is that they know little about them. We should try to get to know people better before jumping to conclusions in order to reduce the chances of a conflict occurring and hard feelings.
This advice I give to myself and to all the readers,
May Allah forgive all Muslims
April21
You cry your eyes out, you believe that everyone around you is against you, they are taking away your freedom and you feel that no one listens to you. You put your head on your pillow and drown your self with your warm tears asking yourself why are you surrounded by this injustice. You feel as if someone is choking you and you’re trying hard to gasp for air… Then you wake up the next day and go on with your regular schedule. Neglect the fajr prayer, listen to music, wasting your time in malls and then complain at the end of the day about how lousy your life is. why don’t you take a moment and ask yourself , maybe all of this depression you’re going through is because of the barrier you built between yourself and your complete inner satisfaction?
Believe me all this depression will fade away once you get closer to Allah…
Once you get over this phase and increase your faith, you will realize that all of the “depressing days, the injustice and loneliness” was not worth going through…. It was because you were away from Allah and forgot the crucial factors that lead to inner happiness.. I give this advice to myself first, then you all, that in order to overcome the problems in our life we should strive harder to become better hard working Muslims..
May Allah Forgive us all…