February27
Can you imagine life with an eraser, in which every time you make a mistake in life you would pick up your eraser and simply wipe it off? Or if it was like your computer screen, in which whenever you make a mistake you can simply erase it by click on “delete”. Unfortunately, life isn’t like that. Anything we do shall remain in our memories and thoughts, it shall haunt us every where we go.. Of course Allah knows what is best for us and probably by wiping off your mistakes easily, you may not learn from them.. However, sometimes there are some things which you wish deeply that you can erase from your history, people whom you wish never existed in your life and sins which make you feel ashamed whenever you remember… I sometimes wish that i can pick up a pencil and start drawing my past in a more decent way, but when i think of it.. Without my mistakes in the past i would not be who i am now. Not that i do not do mistakes now, but at least i have learnt alot from my past, and i have started to appreciate being a Muslim…
It is not easy to overcome your mistakes and sins, and i assure you that not only you and I suffer from this but also other Muslims. But we should remember that Allah knows what’s best for us. We do not know what our future hides and we do not know what Allah has planned for us. All what we know is that we should learn from our mistakes in the past and avoid walking in the same unpleasant path…
We need to gain our strengths and not let Satan make us say “if only i could erase my past” because by saying that we shall encourage Satan to overpower us..
All what i am trying to say is that what’s done is done, whether we like it or not.. Now we should start to focus on improving our life by getting closer and closer to Allah and following the Sunnah of our Beloved Prophet – Peace Be Upon Him-
February3
The hardest thing to go through in life, is when you are obliged to say goodbye to the one’s you love. Even if the good bye isnt forever, but still just by saying it you find yourself drowned by your tears and surrounded by sadness. You start realizing that a crucial part in you shall vanish or shall drift away from you after holding on to it very tightly. But when you come to think of it again, you ask yourself “what about those who leave their loved one’s to battle for islam?” or “those innocent people who have been killed and their families were forced to say good bye to them?”
how do you expect them to feel when they say good bye?
Many people tell you that you should be strong, yet you find yourself no matter how strong you try to be a tiny part in your heart remains vulnerable then this tiny part overpowers your heart and you find yourself fully weak.
Although not all goodbye’s mean death, or a negative separation. Some good bye’s could mean “see you next weekend” or “see you after the vacation”. However because of how close a person is to you, you refuse to give them up and let fate join you back again.
This is just a reminder to us all, that someday sometime we may lose a close person either voluntary or involuntary so we should seize every moment we spend with them..
May Allah forgive all Muslims
January10
I will be away for sometime..
Maybe weeks or months..
Only Allah himself knows til when..
Don’t forget me in your Dua’a Please
December20
Birdie shed a tear and looked around her, looking at the people who have lost hope. She felt their pain and sorrow through their eyes, but she knew that If only they believed strongly that hope still existed then they wouldn’t be as sad as they are right now. Birdie walked like a lost child, wandering, not knowing where she was heading to. Everywhere she went she found a person crying, cursing hope and trying to stop themselves from dreaming. Birdie felt sad, so lost and so confused. Why are people so pessimistic? Why can’t they be optimistic about life? Why can’t they just let time tell?
As birdie walked quietly, between the crowds, she found a women holding onto something with her eyes closed so tightly. It was a weird moment.
Birdie moved closer to her and bent down, she kept looking at the woman, trying to figure out what she was focusing her mind on. She touched the woman so gently, the woman opened her eyes and looked at birdie and smiled so calmly. Birdie, out of a sudden, felt so secure, so ease inside and so calm. The woman’s eyes were glowing with happiness, joy and h hope.
Birdie and the lady just stared at each other for minutes, then the lady whispered “go.. You don’t belong here” Birdie didn’t want to let go of the woman’s hand. But she had to because the woman kept on repeating so gently “just go.. Hope is waiting” Birdie got up and walked away slowly, Then turned back to look at the woman because her existence there was so inevitable. As the time birdie turned to look at her, the last was gone, simply not there. Birdie smiled then shrugged and went on to the path that the woman had told her to take. The lady was like a beautiful diamond lost in a huge sea. As birdie kept walking, people around her kept looking at her strangely. Birdie paid them no attention and went on. She head people around her shout “there’s no hope! Give up!” Bride smiled sarcastically and continued walking. She believed deep down that hope is just one step away. She knew that her dreams will all come true; it is all just a matter of time. Life is like a battle field, in order to live, you should be able to compete and that was what birdie was doing. She learnt the art of war in order to fight people who try to let her lost hope. She knew that now nothing could stop her from fulfilling her dreams. She believed strongly that her Creator – Allah- would make her dreams come true, she only has to believe it more and more and hopefully her dreams will get fulfilled. Written on : 27/11/2005
December10
I noticed that alot of the people donate money to people from abroad, neglecting the fact that we have alot of people within our country who suffer from famine, poverty and sicknesses.. It’s heart breaking to hear people from our Muslim country call the talk shows and complain about what they are going through in order to live , whereas we play around with our money and spend thousands of dirham’s on useless things.. we sometimes try to act generous by donating abroad and saying our country does not have poor people.. Who said that we do not have needy people?
There are some people who are in deep need for money but are too shy to ask for help, or they do not want to show others that they have no money..
I am not saying that we should not donate money to the people abroad who are in desperate need for our help, but we should also keep a portion of our money to the people in our country, who struggle in order to fight the unbelievable inflation that is invading our country..
Maybe, what triggers people to donate abroad is that they tempt us by putting really heart touching pictures of the poor children.. Whereas, you do not find a picture of an Emarati Child struggling to find food or medical treatment in any donation advertisements..
We need to start focusing on helping the people in our country, in addition to the people in other poor countries.. Not to forget that الأقربون أولى بالمعروف This is a reminder to myself first then to all other Muslims to contribute in providing help, care and financial support to the Muslims in our country.. حدثنا آدم حدثنا شعبة حدثنا معبد بن خالد قال سمعت حارثة بن وهب قال سمعت النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول : (تصدقوا فإنه يأتي عليكم زمان يمشي الرجل بصدقته فلا يجد من يقبلها يقول الرجل لو جئت بها بالأمس لقبلتها فأما اليوم فلا حاجة لي بها). رواه البخاري Hadith No. 1345
إِن تُبْدُواْ الصَّدَقَاتِ فَنِعِمَّا هِيَ وَإِن تُخْفُوهَا وَتُؤْتُوهَا الْفُقَرَاء فَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لُّكُمْ وَيُكَفِّرُ عَنكُم مِّن سَيِّئَاتِكُمْ وَاللّهُ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ خَبِيرٌ 271 (Al Baqara)
Note: thanks to my husband for inspiring me with these thoughts
November23
In life, it is very normal for us to be in situations where different emotions arise. At times, you find yourself very mad at a close friend, upset from a family member or jealous from a stranger. Most emotions are uncontrollable. Emotions are found within every living thing, its inevitable.
However, not all people can express their feelings properly or decently.
Some people can tell the person who upsets them, that they hurt their feelings but sometimes people just lock things in their heart and expect time to heal it.
It is difficult to tell a person whom you care about that they have hurt you, or that they have broken your heart specially when that person is very close to you. You fear that you may hurt their feelings or just make things worse so you sit quietly and act as if nothing happened. Unfortunately, locking things in you isn’t the right solution, because you become more vulnerable by time and a time will come when you will simply collapse. Building up these feelings would not lead to a happy ending, but may destroy and harm you physically and psychologically.
Sometimes you would wish that there was some kind of an invention that would tell the person who hurt you how you feel exactly and tell them how deeply hurt you are, because you know that when you get the courage to express your feelings you simply mess up and make things worse.
Locking up your feelings may at times be good, but not always.
Unfortunately, In the long run it has a lot of consequences.
November11
Peoples interference
Dont do this
say this to your husband
go out without your husbands approval
dont listen to your husband
These are the advises that you will be hearing a lot during marriage, specially in the first years of life. People tend to act like expertise where they believe that their package of advises will save your marriage where in reality they are putting a hole in your ship of marriage.
People shouldnt interfere in others marriage life, if they have something beneficial to say such as be an obedient wife, do as your husband says and dont go anywhere unless your husband approves then they should start talking. However, if they have a lot of non-sense to say than they should just stay away from people rather than ruining their life.
Unfortunately, many girls go with the flow and do as the others tell them to do, they do it because they think that listening to others will benefit them. What they should do is listen to Islamic scholars, lectures and read books. They should hear things from people who are expertise in such issues, they should follow the sunnah rather than follow women who barely know anything about Islam.
Marriage isnt a fairy tale, where only love surrounds you. Everything in life has ups and downs, even marriage. That is why if a woman faces difficulty in her marriage, she should take the critical steps, she should pray Allah to help her out, try to solve it by her self if not possible then seek help from those who are trustful. Dont go to a woman who hasnt talked to her husband for years for advice, nor go to a woman who is disobedient and disrespectful to her husband but go to the one who sweet talks her husband and follows the Islamic rules in her own kingdom.
Finally, I would like to advise people not to interfere in peoples personal life specially when it is a very sensitive issue. Try to help or support your friend in the right.
October16
Many people, unfortunately, believe that money buys happiness and love. The more money you spend on them or give them the more they feel that you love them. Although It is true, that Islam encourages us to give gifts in order to get closer to people, but not to the extent that you may bribe the person or try to BUY their love and attention. It is somehow unethical. If you want to win someone over, it is by having a good heart and by caring for that person but not by giving them money and wait for them to treat you like a king or queen.
If that will be the case, that we let people buy our love by money, then what about those who have kind hearts yet don’t have much money? Would we NOT love them? Would we neglect them and go to those who have more money?
Life isn’t about money, but is about the value of things. Giving a gift to someone in order to show them how much you care or to let them know that you are sorry for a mistake that you have done isn’t wrong, Even if you give them money. I really pity those who try to buy people’s love and attention by throwing away their money, because once they are out of money those people whom they won their love by money may simply walk out of the door and let them love alone in misery.
My whole point is that give gifts or money to family members, friends or the poor in order to show them that you care but don’t do that just to win their love by the act or bribery.
May our intentions be for the Sake of Allah.
Ameen
October2
Dear mother,
I can’t forget the day my little sister came to me, crying and asking me will mommy die from cancer, I looked confused not knowing what she was saying. However, when I looked at you mom holding your cigar I then knew what she meant. Mother, look in the eye of my little sister, look at the fear that is eating her, the fear of losing you due to the consequences of smoking.
Many people around you who suffer from cancer wish to be as healthy as you, wish to be breathing normally, and wish to stop taking chemotherapy. Yet here you are holding the cigarette selling your life at a cheap price in order to satisfy the urge of feeling calm and cool. Mother, haven’t you thought of how much pain you will go through once you get cancer? Haven’t you thought of the pain that we’ll go through when we lose you? Haven’t you thought of how much you are affecting our health? Mother, sister and I don’t want to be raised by our father only; we need you by our side. We want your love, care and tender. Mom, a mother’s love is irreplaceable and it is very valuable so please don’t take it away from us, don’t let your urge for something that will do you no good be the reason for us to lose a loving mother. So mother please, stop smoking. Please stop.
With love,
Your eight year old princess
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Here are Some Fatwa’s about Smoking:
Ruling On Smoking
The Reason Why Smoking is Haram
May Allah forgive all Muslims..
Ameen
September19
Ramadan isn’t all about watching TV, eating as much as you can, shopping until the midnight or smoking sheesha. It is about Purifying your soul and increasing your faith in Allah. Before Ramadan by several weeks, you find TV channels start to advertise about the series that they will be putting. However, did you see them encouraging us to donate and prepare ourselves for Ramadan spiritually, mentally and physically?
People should benefit from Ramadan and should focus on improving their behaviors and getting closer to Allah, rather than getting away from Islam. It is a time where you can realize why you have been misbehaving in the other months, a time where you can question yourself and search for answers by getting closer and closer to Allah.
Sitting in front of the TV, smoking Sheesha and eating until your stomach aches isn’t the solution to how to purify your soul, but is a way to neglect the real meaning of Ramadan.
Don’t waste your precious times in Ramadan. Work harder to overcome your sins and to build a castle in Paradise.
May Allah increase our Iman
September6
I looked at him as he entered the place; his body was supported by a crutch. His body and skin were all wrinkly and his beard was as white as a snow. The look in his eyes and his weak body brought tears to my eyes, but I had to stay strong and not show him that I felt so broken hearted. It took him some time to reach to me and it really broke my heart to see such a person walk all on his own. The old man came all by himself to the hospital for an appointment he had taken. He had walk for a long distance to reach the ward for his appointment. It made me wonder where is his family, His children, His nephews and His grandchildren? Is it possible that no one was able to bring him here?
You wonder nowadays, where did the social support disappear? It was widely spread in our Muslim society but now it is weakening by time. You find the elderly on their own and when you ask them about their children, they would tell you that they don’t get in contact with them anymore.
SubhanAllah. How life is changing.
I believe that this training of mine will teach me a lot of lessons in life, lessons that may open my eyes to life and realize what’s really going on in our muslim society.
The last thing a person would want in life, is to be on his own. Specially after spending almost all your life raising your children, providing them with the best education and when its their turn to take care of you, they turn around and give you their backs,,
I really hope that I would be obedient to my parents; I hope I don’t put them in such a situation where they would feel so lonely and unwanted.
May Allah strengthen our Iman..
Ameen
August23
Dear Friend,
I gaze at you, as if I am gazing at a total stranger. As if you and I were never friends. You talk to me as if I am your worse enemy and I tend to avoid you as if we were never once considered as sisters. I don’t understand why can’t you forgive me for the “change” I went through in life. No one consulted me about whether I wanted to ‘change’ or be the same, it happened without my will. It took me a while to realize how much I have changed and how negligent I have become to you. Maybe I have hurt you by my actions, but believe me it’s not like I wanted to. It happened uncontrollably.
We know that as Muslims we should forgive others, we should find in our heart a place for forgiveness, because if we don’t forgive then this life would be built only on hatred. This is Satan’s way to make us get apart, to throw our friendship down the drain. You may think that you are the victim in this whole issue, yet what about me? Only Allah himself knows what I went through and that I am a victim too.
We shouldn’t always look at the past and remember the mistakes that people have done, but what we should do is focus on how to improve things and avoid the mistakes done in the past.
Although they have always told us that “you can’t always fix a broken glass”, however I disagree. Even though we may not be able to remove away the cracks on the broken glass, but we will be able to fix it and put the pieces back together.
I’m writing this letter hoping that you would be a little bit considerate, and not let Satan control your actions.
Yours sincerely,
Candle of hope
May Allah forgive all Muslims
Ameen
A letter to my visitors: We humans are hasty in judgments’, all what I ask from you is to understand the persons point of view and try to be considerate before judging them wrongly. Forgive those who ask you for forgiveness.
August5
Lately, everything and everyone around us seem weird. The people we talk to, their behaviors and their thoughts. SubhanAllah, the Prophet- Peace Be Upon Him – himself has told us that a time will come where people whom speak the truth shall not be trusted.
I don’t know why it is so hard for people to believe us when we speak the truth, yet when we lie they get so frustrated and say that they won’t trust us anymore. They put us in a situation where you don’t know whether you should speak the truth or easily lie to escape the punishment. I can’t tolerate it when we speak the truth and people look at us or talk to us as if all what is coming out of our mouths are lies that are built upon lies. Even though, at times, our nafs asks us to lie so that we would stay out of trouble but we fight back because we know that getting punished is better than lying, however even when we speak the truth they think we are lying.
The whole thing reminds me of the story we’ve known during our childhood about the little boy and the wolf, the boy who always used to lie about the wolf and when the wolf actually came and he cried out for help, no one believed him. What we are going through is similar to this story except that we are having a different version, that even if we have been telling the truth since the start, people will still not believe us. They probably won’t believe us until they see, by themselves, the wolf eating us alive. Our environment is encouraging us to do the opposite, to lie rather than speak the truth because we know that in both cases you shall be punished and not believed.
Still, we shouldn’t be vulnerable and let our nafs control us and simply lie. All what we should do is accept the finger pointing, criticism and looks we get and remember that Allah will, inshaAllah, reward us for telling the truth.
May Allah strengthen our Iman Ameen